Our creative subconscious is *amazingly* powerful. We are adept at manifesting what we visualize - tweaking circumstances slightly but regularly and with great results.
When we choose someone to be in relationship with we have an incredible ability to a) choose people whom are ideal to explore our issues with (wether to 're-traumatize' or to grow through them is a big question) and b) shoe-horn the other person into the role that we need them to be in so that we can process our issues *on them* and/or *with them*.